Marriage Helps and Divorce Helps

A Starting Place for Enrichment

What started as a gap-filling resource for my ministry has become a set of pages I hope will be helpful.

I had books, articles and helpful websites galore! They are the real backbone of my information. But still, something was missing. I needed a piece to hand to people that would sketch out some basic thoughts in a quick, non-threatening fashion. For those of you who work with pre-marital, married or divorcing persons, you now have Marriage Helps and Divorce Helps. These quick, 2-page guides started as a way to overview some key life issues with my couples and divorcees. Because I work with a high volume of each, I had found a need for something that human beings will actually read!

Indeed, each of these topics could be an expansive book. Or a web site unto itself. But I find that on introduction, folks just aren't going to sit down and give that level of focus to a topic unless guided in. That's what these pages do. They act almost like a relational "mirror" that my marriage and divorce participants can hold up in front of themselves. They are written conversationally in an attempt to connect and inspire. Often, these pages become dialogue-starters in the next session after they've been read. The participant comes back in and references a key thought from one of these topics and wants to talk more. Then we have something to work with!

I hope you'll find them to be a bridge you can use to inspire further thought or conversation. Perhaps you’ll find something here that we need to sit down and talk about. Let me know!

Marriage Helps

• Marriage Helps Resource - 7 Myths
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Competitiveness
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Conflicts and Patterns
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Critical Issues
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Dealing with Your Families of Origin
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Emotionally Available
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Finding Me Without Losing Us
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Keep Romance
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - Money Matters
  
• Marriage Helps Resource - The Presence of Christ

Divorce Helps

• Divorce Helps Resource - 7 Myths
  
• Divorce Helps Resource - 8 Questions Divorcees Ask A Lot
  
• Divorce Helps Resource - Exclusion and Embrace
  
• Divorce Helps Resource - Handling the Grief of Divorce
  
• Divorce Helps Resource - Lessons from the Bachelor
  
• Divorce Helps Resource - Things I Never Tell Nearlyweds
• Divorce Helps Resource - Key Attitudes You'll Need in Your Corner

Dr. Charles Qualls is Associate Pastor for Pastoral Care at the historic Second-Ponce de Leon Baptist Church in Atlanta. Since 1995, he has offered more than 30 Divorce Recovery groups for over 1400 participants. He works with 12-15 pre-marital and married couples each year in multi-session enrichment counseling as well. Charles is a frequent consultant and group leader in the areas of marriage and divorce work. Along with Bo Prosser, he is the co-author of Marriage Ministry: A Guidebook (Smyth and Helwys Publishing, 2004). Dr. Qualls may be reached by email here.